Recently I have heard a common theme among clients when they are riding or handling their horses: “Things always go better when you are here.” No, I am not saying that as a marketing ploy, or to pat myself on the back (though I do appreciate the compliment :)), I want to address why that may be, so EVERY ride can be just as smooth, consistent, and fun.
What is different about my clients when they work their horses while I am watching? They have the same physical body, with its strengths and weaknesses. And the horse couldn’t have changed much since the last ride. Our state of mind is the biggest variable, and it plays a large part in how we work with our horses. Many times my students say they are much more confident when I am around. They feel as though I can help them through difficulties so there is no reason to get scared, worked up, mad, or irritated at their horse. With increased confidence comes a relaxed state of mind, and therefore a loose, relaxed body. They can breathe better, move with fluidity, and let their brains focus on working with the horse- not preventing the next mistake before it occurs.
Another difference in my clients may be that when I am there, it is due to a scheduled lesson. I am part of the list of things already on the schedule, not one of the extras that we all try to cram in (Like riding our horse during our free time). So, while their schedules are full all week long, when it is time for their lesson they are present and prepared and ready. They have probably thought of what went wrong the last time they rode, so they can ask me how to improve. They have tried to shut other things out of their mind, at least partially, so they can focus on their lesson. They are, after all, paying for this. And showing up unprepared, late, or completely unfocused would be a waste of money.
Speaking of state of mind- our horses also have good and bad days, and we can’t forget that. However, while on any given day they can be intently focused, or distracted by everything that walks by, our horse’s state of mind is hugely affected by our attitude and mindset. So unfortunately you usually can’t blame most of the problem on the horse.
So how can you accomplish the same preparation and confidence on your own time? First you have to address what your state of mind (and body) is before you even open the stall door. Are we anxious? Rushed? Irritated? Focused? Do we even have a goal in mind of what we want to accomplish with our horse? Most of my clients do not show or compete, and they enjoy their horses strictly as a hobby. And I am not going to force anyone to spend hours documenting their goals each time they ride, or practice grueling exercises and stretches 5 days a week. That would take all the fun out of having a “fun hobby”. That being said, what can be gained by just a few minutes of preparation, or thinking about our horse goals, struggles, problem areas when we are away from the barn?
The first recommendation for any rider is to let your mind picture what you want with your horse. With a picture, we immediately (and sometimes unconsciously) start making a plan, and with a plan we gain confidence and the mental awareness to achieve our goals. (See now you are planning but you don’t even know it!)
Do you envision loping through a grass field, performing a collected trot, walking on a loose rein with friends, or sliding into a stop? Let your mind wander- don’t force it, just as you wouldn’t force your horse. When you find that picture, try to see/feel what might be the biggest hurdle to accomplishing it. What just doesn’t seem to work? Are your hands flying around? Do you quit breathing?
A great example: most beginner riders or those with confidence and stability issues have trouble moving with their horse in a lope or canter- most tense up and block the horse’s movement. A lot of bouncing and really sore inner thighs are soon to follow. For those riders I suggest they picture their horse loping- how is the horse’s back moving, and how do your hips need to adjust so you aren’t just bouncing around? Where is your upper body in all of this? You can also watch other riders performing the same maneuvers. Between watching others at your barn, and the vast number of clips on YouTube, you should have plenty of mental pictures to mull over. After thinking this through, you are probably not ready to jump on your horse, give them a big kick and expect the lope to be beautiful, but you need that picture in your mind to relax and let your body follow what your brain already knows.
Along the same lines, picture what you want your entire ride to encompass. If we strive for a relaxed horse that meanders around casually, but we are only focused on how fast we can get in and out of the barn and on to the next thing, do we stand a chance of having a relaxed ride? By picturing the specific maneuvers, along with the overall feeling we want from our time with horses, we allow our minds to prepare our body for just that. Our minds will help our shoulders relax, our breathing slow, and our hips to loosen for a nice calming ride. In the same way, by picturing energetic rollbacks or lead changes, our mind helps prepare us, and our horse, for some difficult and precise maneuvers.
The next step is to prepare your body physically for what it will need to do. Again I am not advocating a new 5 day a week exercise program. But a few stretches and daily exercises can help get your muscles to have the muscle memory you want, instead of what you wish they would forget.
More on the physical exercises next time!